This paper deals with a current topic of separation and divorce and its influence on family in Croatia. It points on worrying facts of diminished number of marriages, later marriage age as well as the statistical fact that the divorce hits every third marriage. The essential contribution and originality of this work are interviews with the affected spouses who have undergone or are undergoing divorce. These interviews are bringing to the light everything they went through during this process- from physical and mental abuse, poor and pointless communication, various addictions, and adultery. From all this it is obvious that separation/divorce has consequences for the affected spouses ranging from mental health and psychic issues associated with a sense of sinfulness. The major contribution of this pastoral reflection is that it draws attention to the fact that children are also involved in these processes where they suffer physically and emotionally. Based on those consideration, this work gives two strategic proposals, based on research and church documents. 1) the first suggestion is personal work and judgment of situation of all affected parties; 2) the second suggestion is prevention as a mean of work on the quality of marriage and family, the establishment of the integral pastoral marriage and family as Familiaris Consortio, Directory for the pastoral care of families of the Church in Croatia and Amoris Laetitia are teaching.